They've invested quite a bit of self worth into the concept of being a good person. So that means anybody they want to treat badly, or think badly of, can't possibly be a good person. Those people just have to be jerks.
No amount of logic is going to budge them. They are simply incapable of viewing the other party (the mod makers) as good people with rights who deserve to be respected.
This is totally wrong.
What it assumes is that there is an actual "right" and "wrong" in this scenario. There isn't. Viewed from a certain lens Forgecraft
is an exclusionary club of modded minecraft kingmakers. They don't necessarily want to be that, they didn't necessarily mean to be that, and to many people they
are not, but that perspective exists and there are events that support it.
The FC folks are a group of friends who achieved celebrity due to the accomplishments of their members. Were they a group of folks with no real minecraft-related accomplishments we'd probably care a lot less about who they invite to FC2, what mods they like, and what mods they loathe. Their natural condition is to be a group of friends that grows organically. But where they focus their attention is then amplified in this community by their celebrity.
On the one hand, they're normal people doing normal things. On the other hand, you could argue that the celebrity they've stumbled into means they have to start considering how potent their actions can be. You can argue they have a right to be normal people and you'd be right. You can also argue that they could consider how even their casual, off-the-cuff remarks can be echoed in their fanbase 100x over.
For example, Slowpoke's recent–and perhaps unwitting, given that he normally is a standup and fair guy–sexist conversation on his stream r.e. Eloraam. Now people are repeating the meme that Eloraam got where she was and has special treatment because she's a woman. Hooray: that toxic sentiment again. I do not think that is how he really feels, but since there was a few moments where it could be construed that he said that on his stream, we're now in a place where people are repeating it. Bummer, because how Eloraam got so popular was by delivering one of the best damn mods in minecraft history.
In any event, my experience is that you cannot tell someone, "Don't feel excluded." The very act of doing so makes them feel worse. So your post, well-intentioned as it was, is nearly as useless as the OP. It just won't do anything. Perhaps this post is equally so–oh well. I never said I wasn't a hypocrite.