(Edit: warning, wall of text!)
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Specifically, there is a major problem of insularity and elitism among these people. I've been getting a very strong impression over the last several months, of a particular closed clique, which refers to itself (to quote Pahimar) as "the Forge community," which congregates on a couple of private servers and spends a lot of time focusing on how awesome it supposedly is. They view themselves as celebrities, putting it fairly simply.
The modding community has (as a whole) a larger amount of knowledge than that of the user. Simply put, people who all like the same thing, or do the same thing, will generally all get together in some way, shape or form. This is just how things work. We as the human race like to be among others who share the same views, and do the same things as others.
There is an equally strong sense at this point, that the modifications which these people develop, are only really intended for the developer clique themselves, and their chosen friends (such as ShadowDragon) to use; I can't remember the last time I saw a public release of IndustrialCraft 2 available from that mod's web site, that wasn't exclusively in FTB, for example. Buildcraft (or the public, non-in-crowd releases, at least) is also showing signs of serious decay, with texture rendering bugs, and the Filler simply destroying blocks it removes, rather than dropping them on the ground.
Lets say, I decide I want a cupcake. So, I make cupcakes, and I eat them. I made the cupcakes for myself, for me to enjoy. I didn't eat all of the cupcakes, so I decide to let my neighbors have some. The good nature of myself offering what I've created for the bettering of more than just myself. Or, I made the cupcakes, and my neighbor saw them and asked for one. I give him a cupcake because I like to share, rather than keep everything to myself. I don't have to share the cupcakes, and there are people out there who don't, but because I did, and my neighbors liked them, they'll come back for more when I can give more.
This is a VERY loose analogy of how modding works. There are mods out there that people make just for themselves. I do believe that is how all modding starts, regardless of the game. Eventually, people find out about the mods, they want them, and a giving modder will provide what they've made for the public. The public will take it for granted. They won't say thanks enough, and they'll demand something bigger and better for future releases.
[moving this to later in my response] 1.4.7's release of Red Power 2 also has at least one crash bug that I know of, which I've inadvertently triggered multiple times.
I think the real problem is the fact that there has been far too much fawning and genuflection towards these people. They are not Gods, but unfortunately most players tend to regard them as such, and as mentioned above, I've really been starting to get the impression that it has gone to their heads. I don't think we should be deliberately rude or insulting to them, but I don't think it's good for them if we worship them excessively, either.
I'm going to start with the bolded part here. Simply, most people are sheep. They follow the crowd, and anyone who has even a slight advantage over them, or some skillset they do not possess, this new person gets put on a pedestal. This can also be equated to my first response, the modders generally have more knowledge than the user, therefore, to the user, the modder must be viewed as a higher "authority" (authority is used loosely here).
Here in America, when we vote for the Presidential candidates, we don't vote for average Joe Shmoe who hasn't proved his worth. We vote for the people who evidently have more intelligence than we do, or have a certain set of skills we're looking for. Not because they are actually smarter, or actually have better skills at any one task, but because they have done something that we believe proves they have the necessary skills to run the country. Then, whoever becomes President, regardless of any of the aforementioned items, is put on a pedestal, for the world to see and criticize.
Or, a different side of the coin. Your plumbing backs up at your house. Rather than learning how to do it yourself, most people will just hire a plumber to fix the problem. Because they have proved they know what they're doing, and you don't have, or don't use, that knowledge.
1.4.7's release of Red Power 2 also has at least one crash bug that I know of, which I've inadvertently triggered multiple times.
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The trend towards elitism and insularity has perhaps been most strikingly visible with Eloraam. I've been using her mods since before 1.7.3, and back then, she referred to it as Integrated Redstone. This was back before RP World and a lot of other things; the wiring and the integrated blocks were the only real thing there. Back then, however, she was friendly and a lot more communicative; I used to see her regularly responding to people in the RP Minecraftforums thread. Over time, however, and as the mod got bigger and Forge was developed, that changed. We started hearing less and less from her; and for me, the straw which really broke the camel's back was the fact that ShadowDragon and Direwolf20 were making YouTube videos which featured a 1.4.7 version of RP2, probably three months before there was a public release.
Grouping all of the your RP2 complaints into one big group.
I don't know what Elo does for a living, and frankly I don't care. I'm glad she is able to find some time in her busy life to provide for me a mod that I genuinely enjoy. As an adult, with a job, a family, and health problems, I know how run down you can be at the end of the work day. I know how busy life can get between needing to clean the house, wash the dishes, clean and iron the laundry, make sure my car is in good working order, make sure the garbage is out and the cat is fed. That's not counting the sleep I like to enjoy at the end of a log day, or the actual work I get paid to do during the day. I find time to spend a few hours each and every day to work on the Help Desk here, and post on the forums. That's absolutely minuscule by comparison to actually writing the code to a mod. Let alone the upkeep that is needed as thing change in Minecraft development. I would love to learn how to write a mod, and a good one too, but I know I simply don't have the time. I would have to entirely remove myself from the community here to honestly get a good handle on how Java works, then develop the mod itself.
Modders do a LOT of work for us to keep using the mods we enjoy. I won't hesitate to say I don't like a lot of the mods out there. But what I do like is the ability to use them. The ones I don't like, I don't use.
As for your seemingly angry attitude toward the people on ForgeCraft. Get over it. They're friends, for the most part, and mostly because they share interests (I assume). Go get your friends and have some fun. This is a game after all.
(Had to get it off my chest, this whole thread is frustrating.)