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I don't think the nether portal in the nether always appears at exactly the corresponding coordinates (because those might be blocked). Check the coordinates of both ends to make sure.
I think you just need the blood shard, adding a blood orb just makes it cost less. Also, you can use a ritual of unbinding to take your existing helmet apart rather than making an entirely new one.