You have to understand that I am not to blame for you misconceptions. I cannot control what you think especially when it is contrary to what we are saying. FTB is not here to provide an alternative to technic, tekkit or any other mod pack. The mod pack was created first and foremost for the Feed The Beast Maps. The launcher was created in order to allow more people to install the mods and the maps more easily. Over time however we have also included the ability to play the mod packs as stand-alone packs that can be used in survival worlds etc. It is everyone else who see's this as a better alternative to technicpack. If things had gone differently, we might not have a FTB launcher at all. On more than one occasion I have approached the staff on the technic forums to not just ask but offer to help them make changes which would have allowed me to make maps for their launcher. They decided not to go down this route so the FTB launcher was born.
No one has lied about Weapon Mods, the list is accurate in that is says we do not have permissions for the mod in of itself. However maybe it should be made clear that the reason we dont have permissions is because we have never asked for them. There is no real place for something like Weapon Mods in FTB map packs. As far as I am concerned, unless we maybe do some sort of pack aimed at PvP in the future we wont be looking at adding that mod or anything similar to one of our packs. This doesnt mean that you or some other person cant get permissions for the mod and create your own pack. We can distribute it for you if needed as long as you have the needed permissions.
As to thaumcraft 3 we are already testing the Magic World Pack and this pack not only includes TC3 but is focused around it. Thaumcraft 3 wont be included in the map pack, mainly because it doesnt fit in with our plans for the next map. (having said that, this was based on old information. I havent had a proper chance to take a look at how TC3 works, so even that is subject to change. From the information you are kind of implying, I would guess that the pack you are going to want to use is the one that direwolf will be using or something very close to it. As a lets-player. He will be using a much more general purpose pack where as I will be putting out something that is more themed. I honestly wouldn't worry about that though. Give it a month or two and you will have a large variety of packs that you can use.
Finally please remember that pretty much this entire team is literally coming at this one day at a time. We have made sooo many mistakes that you wouldnt believe. We will probably make a ton more in the future. The last thing anyone needs is to see people coming in here and tearing into them especially when its over stuff that just is not true. By all means give out constructive criticism. We actually do read this stuff and when needed we act on it. We have already made huge changes to the forum and the launcher based off of comments we have seen in this and other forums. The people involved are doing their best to help an insanely large amount of people and this is still a very young project so it is going to take time to get things right.
Think I've said enough for now.