I say this to no offense of anyone here so certainly take none. The chance of Eloraam making a mod or updating RP2 is extremely slim because of how poorly people of the community treat her. Some people feel the need to assault her verbally because they do not like some aspects of her mod or how she goes about modding. This is very common in the modding and I do not understand why it goes on as you are never forced to use the mod in the first place. I will give two examples (This is not meant to be anything against or defending agree he is just an amazing example). Often people say thing about Greg as a modded that are consciously or subconsciously offending and geared to making him stop modding because the mod he develops is so hard to progress in, they are never forced to use the mod. The second example is of BlueDart the creator of DartCraft. People make fun of him and say things because they think his mod is so "cheaty." It is also important you realize the difference between people saying stuff about a mod in all or saying things about a mod change. Ex: when Rieka added the work table people said some complaints about the change. If people start discouraging her from modding because they do not like her mods she will not likely start again. And some people on this thread already have started. People discouraging her is also one of the reasons she already left (Ontop of the family and work problems). This is not meant to offend just inform.
I agree with everything but the
bold underlined. If you are primarily an SMP player you ARE in fact forced in to using some mods and depending on why you dislike the mods you can't even opt to not use it. The very nature of how mods work and how servers handle mods you are somewhat forced by circumstance to tolerate some mods.
Some mods are easier to tolerate then others; If you think Dartcraft is cheaty you actually can very well ignore the stuff as not much of it is forced on you (ohh god bad pun..) you will have to tolerate collecting force ore but that's no biggie, it's nothing a void pipe or trading can't fix. But a mod like say GregTech if you don't like the Vanilla changes and your server admin insists on hard mode you have only the choice of toleration or evacuation (from the server). Which is still a choice I guess but it's a bloody crappy one, if for some reason every server has GregTech hardmode you can't play SMP unless you sink the capital in to run your own which only a small portion of this community can do right.
Also for instance I personally dislike Geostrata and have stated my dislike on the forum to the point where I have irritated Reika the mod creator (mainly becasue I was insisting a lot of others hated it as I did when I had no REAL evidence). The nature of how the mod works means if I want to play FTB Monster I cannot simply just not use the mod. If I want to play on a server as it is 80% world gen that you have to encounter while doing the basics (mining). Now it doesn't bother me as much now as I got sick of the SMP scene and have made my own pack without Geostrata. But If I still insisted on playing Monster in an SMP format I'd have to tolerate Geostrata or even better but unlikely for me I could learn to like it. But one thing I cannot do is "just not use it" as I can't very well dodge all the varying types of stone to mine as mining the stone and picking it up would be using the mod albeit in the most basic of ways.
Also you are forgetting the morons; One of the facets of the service FTB brings is that it standardizes/ simplifies mods for servers and people without tech savvy. FTB makes mods easy to access for those who are either not technologically inclined or rock level stupid. Most in a SSP setting will have enough aptitude to use the in-launcher feature for disabling mods but if they are too dumb or lazy to use the feature they are by circumstances forced to use some mods they don't like. In other words morons are unable to change the packs to suit them and they are here because FTB does the hard mod stuff for them, stuff they don't have or feel they don't have the capacity to do.
You could say the numbnuts should just get smart but if they get smart they don't really need FTB anymore and they can graduate to more basic but more free form mod launchers like MultiMC or MagicLoader.
So "you are never forced to use the mod in the first place." is partially untrue. You are not forced to play the mods in the same way you are not forced to play Minecraft.
All of that being said though, you are right about modders. Overly demanding and entitled twits spouting nonsense could be one of the many straws that broke the mules back for Elo. People would do well to check them selves and learn when to back out lest they scare off more good modders.
Of course they should be allowed to complain about mods but not to the extent Elo got, plus the whole RP2 thing wasn't primarily her fault (if there is even a fault to lay) FTB's insistence waiting so that RP2 be in the next pack compounded the frustration felt at that time.