so I have a question how do I get things to go from the steves cargo manager thingy to a chest since using the wooden extraction pipe makes the pipe blow up unless their is a config to make the pipe not blow up
The Buildcraft pipes? You'll want to use a smaller engine on them, either Redstone (very slow) or something like a simple combustion engine. They tend to explode, last I remember, if there are too many items in them and they get overloaded.
Immediately after the wooden extraction pipe, put an inventory, or if you are going longer distances, make sure to use Golden transport pipes to speed up the transfer so it doesn't bunch up.
You may also want to look into a different item transfer method. Thermal Dynamic ducts with pneumatic servos, EnderIO Conduits, Extra Utilities Nodes and Pipes, etc.