I just got whitelisted. When you first get on, you have to do /rules 1, /rules 2 etc then /accept rules. After that, i still didn't have access to chat or buildrights, but relogging fixed that. Spawn is a safepoint, and you start with stone tools. So a bit easier, but of course no food around the spawn area until you run a bit. And server on easy mode. Seems so tame after singleplayer on normal/hard.