as far as i remember the villagers breed by having food "around" them , its just more automatic to have the villagers harvest it themselves. So toss the villagers food and they will grab the dropped "food" items at some pt(probably) and use it to breed.hmm... so that's probably why I was auto-joined to a server after installing the pack. hmmmmm. thanks Pyure! now I just have to decide... do I look for another server? or another mod pack? or just keep on with what I've got, despite not being able to breed villagers because the server defaults to "mobGriefing" off and won't let me change it...
(after thought note: i HATE creeper holes, and changing that gamerule is generally the easiest fix i use for em albeit heavy handed)