For tools, Knightslime is the best rod for general usage, because of the Unnatural trait that speeds the tool up quite a lot, whatever you have at hand works as far as the head goes (I personally use Obsidian, fair stats and dirt cheap to produce with ActAdd Lava Factory), and the for the binding it's Paper or one between Sponge and Magma Wood if special effects are needed.
Lumber Axes do well with Knightslime rod, Copper tough binding (free xp yay), Cobalt Plate, and whatever you have in abundance for the head; you'll probably want the tool to be as durable as possible.
Hammers I found to work very well with Knightslime tough rod, and End head (cheap, and Alien has a bigger effect on AOE tools), with w/e plate fits your desires (I went with Sponge and Paper and pumped the Redstone up); remember that, however, Hammers face tough competition from ActAdd drills, so endgame hammers aren't really that useful imho.
If you want to recycle an Hammer for an Auto Fortune contraption (beware: lag, possible bugs) with a fake player, you'll want to make it undestructible by using this setup of materials: Obsidian Head, Bronze Plate, a random plate (this can be useful if you used a paper plate, but also if you want to run Lavawood to auto-smelt too), and an Ardite tool rod: if the hammer has more than 900 durability (which it should have), the Duritae and Dense trait will combo up and let the tool gain more durability from Petramor than what it loses by mining (won't happen immediately, but it will eventually happen as the tool wears down, don't worry). A similar pickaxe can be made, but idk for what use.
Shurikens made of End/Manyullyn/Bone/Paper are really strong, and again, End is super cheap. Load with quartz and lapis if you will and forget about mobs that aren't Endermen (I am serious, these are like a baby 1.7 crossbow, bringing ranged and spammy destruction everywhere).
This really leaves no business to melee weapons if not for Enderman kills: if you want to farm them, use a Scythe with a Manyullyn rod, an End rod (enderference cripples endermen really badly), and whatever you really desire for head and binding; if you instead are looking for something that can bring down them easily, use a Rapier with a cheap blade material, a Paper crossbar, and an End rod, and load if up with Blaze Powder, that deals quite a lot of damage (and that works if you spamclick, killing an Enderman in around a second) and that is not going to annoy you as enderference blocks the poor guys anyway.
Bows I found rather underwhelming, and I think you're better off looking for an alternative for these.