I think the BC pump will load the chunks it is drawing lava out of, but the chunk it is actually in needs to be loaded. I think that is what Direwolf said when he set up his most recent one. He used a spot loader for his instead of a chunk loader to cover many chunks like in the past.I found for me it feels way more balanced allowing the enderthermic pump to only work in the overworld; it means I can still pump out large amounts of lava but I no longer view it as an "infinite resource". The BC pump does also auto-chunkload now (iirc).
I am a little bit surprised that you show so much concern about the lag caused by the animation of the engines but not the lag from the flowing lava but I never force my playing style on others.
I do have a suggestion:
Use BC gate logic to send out a redstone signal when the tank is full to turn off the magmatic dynamo, this requires structure pipes but works quite well.