RailCraft Anchors are a nice option for server play, as they require fuel, load a small area, and are generally reliable. Combine them with a chunkload limit (18 chunks is two World Anchors) and it should help.
Also, once the FTBUtils chunkloading has improved (may have been addressed in latest updates - I'm using an older version currently), you can have that do the heavy lifting. It also works as a chunk claiming system, which is ideal for server purposes as well. Be sure to check the configs for options regarding chunkloading timeout after players log out as well. If you need more features, drop the mod devs a line, as they are looking to make your life easier.